It all started with panties…
Dear women and men, here is a small post on a subject that is close to my heart. Two months ago, I published a picture of a garment on a Facebook group: it was a lace panty, normal in front, very naughty in back.
I was overwhelmed with adorable messages and it really touched me on the one hand, because I didn’t expect it at all, and on the other hand, because I was expecting a judgment on the type of panties it was.
I feared that it would be interpreted as a symbol of the female object, an image too often conveyed in the press and non-press media, when my intention was quite different. So I was reassured by the kindness of all the cousins, and that’s what encouraged me to create a tutorial and share it with those who were interested.
… but some comments saddened me
In responding to all the comments, I identified some that saddened me. Comments, such as:
“It’s really very pretty, but:
for those with the right body
not for me, I have a flat butt.
not at my age
I thought again that this was really not the message I wanted to convey, quite the contrary. I replied to these people that you shouldn’t believe the magazines, and that a well-fitting lingerie was made for all women. I would have liked to write them a novel about it because I wanted to deconstruct these beliefs.
It is clear that the fashion industry has taken hold of the notion of beauty. She has created the standards, and, although we seek to love ourselves as we are, the weight of the women’s press is a heavy burden to bear. Beauty has been normalized, and anything that deviates from these norms is unconsciously seen as ugly.
You will be beautiful in the eyes of some, ugly for others, and nothing can change that, because beauty is a very subjective notion.
I would like to tell all these women that beauty is a totally moving and subjective notion, just like happiness. Some people seem to have all the conditions to be happy and yet remain unhappy because success (a very personal notion) precedes their happiness.
“I’ll be happy when I get an internship in finance,” a friend told me. A year and a half later (finance internship completed), I asked him: “Are you happy now? ». “Oh, not yet, but I’m working on it, you know. I will be happy when I have a job, a stable life, a wife and children. I asked him if he at least loved himself. “No, I will love myself when I go to the gym and reach my goals, I would like to change the parts of my body that I don’t like.
From an external point of view, he had everything to be happy and feel beautiful. With a Bachelor’s degree in Finance, he will never be lacking in his primary needs. Smart, kind, healthy, he has already travelled a lot, is loved by his family and the list is still long.
However, even by putting him in front of these facts, it was impossible to show him that he had the wrong recipe for happiness since his objectives would never dry up.
This little anecdote serves me to illustrate the subjective notions of beauty, happiness and love, if not that beauty is ephemeral.
Beauty will never be a quality
Beauty is in my opinion a notion that has been much perverted. Attractive, each company took possession of it and set criteria. However, the irony of fate is that these criteria have totally changed according to the times and cultures.
In today’s society, these are no longer just criteria, but beauty has become a discriminating factor that is highlighted by the media, to the point where all the much more virtuous and less random notions such as generosity, emotional intelligence, empathy, solidarity, etc., take second place.
But let’s not forget, beauty is subjective, there’s no point in convincing your friend that this person is beautiful if she doesn’t find her beautiful, and above all, she’s not a quality! We do not rise in value because we are beautiful or beautiful, we are born, grow and age (yes, yes, age) in a body that we do not choose.
Only your eyes matter
I always thought I was beautiful, even when most people thought I was ugly. I admit that I am not really in line with the image conveyed in the magazines: I am not as tall as a model, not as thin as a model, I have cellulite, stretch marks, flat feet, big knees, an ankle too big, and I was once told that I did not have a nose but a snout!
But I have always found myself beautiful because my friends have made me feel that I was important to them, and, ultimately, don’t people in search of beauty just want to receive love?
I also realized that even the people around me who meet the beauty criteria imposed by the media suffered from their relationship with themselves and ultimately did not love each other unconditionally.
We all once said to ourselves, “She dares to complain when she is perfect”. And yes!
Let’s get back to the panties!
I would like to say to all the women who think they can’t wear lingerie, who forbid it, that only their eyes matter.
When you feel beautiful, those around you feel it. Bad tongues often attack people they think they can control, they are not brave enough to go after confident and confident people, let alone people who love each other unconditionally.
Love each other, wear what you want, don’t wear what you don’t want, you are beautiful because you decide to, and a well-fitting lingerie fits everyone, that’s the magic of tailoring.
What do you think about it?
And then, if you had the courage to read this article to the end, here is the article (and the pattern) of this surprise panty!
PS: The image of this article shows that these flowers are all different but as beautiful one as the other ♥